It is a sad fact that almost one half of all marriages in the United States will end in divorce. I am proud that my parents were married almost 50 years until my dad passed away. Caroline and I have now been married for 40 years, and this week we are celebrating with a well-deserved vacation. We have booked a Mediterranean cruise stopping in Barcelona, France and three stops in Italy. I can't wait to spend extended time with Caroline and am also thankful that Michael and Janet are fully qualified to keep Spot On The Lake thriving while we are away. I feel very blessed that God gifted us our marriage. I want to continue to do everything I can to honor the union that He is a part of.
Getting Deeper with Tom
If you clicked on the GettingDeeper link looking for the SpotOnTheLake Water Depth Guide, this ain’t it. This blog gives our lake community, and anyone else that might be interested, a chance to share ideas about things that matter.
Tuesday, April 23, 2024
Thursday, April 18, 2024
Control Freaks
Last night, our ConnectGroup from church finished up our study of The Cost of Control by Sharon Hodde Miller. One of the main points Sharon left us with is that the only things we can really control are ourselves, and there are plenty of times when I do a lousy job of that. She differentiated control from influence. Control is about forcing our agenda on others. Influence is attempting to understand another person's position and then offering counsel when that person is open to it. I face this decision on which approach to take a lot in my business and with my personal relationships. I believe I have gotten better at choosing influence over the years, but I still have a long way to go. While our group didn't always understand Sharon's recommended approach, her writing did a good job of stimulating conversation with the group, and as the group leader, I appreciated that. And there is one other thing we know for sure. Our gathering, our study and our desire to know God more are pleasing to Him. I hope you have, or can find, a group of believers to share your journey with.
Thursday, April 11, 2024
Masters of what?
Wednesday, April 3, 2024
Seeking Sabbat
Easter Sunday ended my lent participation for 2024. I had 40 days with no sweets, no alcohol and no television (with a couple of exceptions mentioned in an earlier post). While it wasn't always easy, I am glad I made the choices I made. Jesus never told us life would be easy. One of the things I was convicted about during Lent was not ever taking a day off. Being in real estate is great in that I get to set my own schedule - kind of. I definitely don't work 8 hours on Saturday and Sunday, but I do feel like I am "on call" all the time. This doesn't leave much of an opportunity for sustained rest and worship. God modeled for us how we should work and rest. He created the world and everything in it in six days and then rested on the seventh. For the last two weeks, I have taken a day off on Wednesday. I am turning off the computer and the phone and letting people know someone else on our team can assist them, or I can help them on Thursday. I try to spend the day resting, reading, praying and worshiping. After a lifetime of not doing that, it is not easy. But like I said earlier, Jesus didn't promise easy. I am told that taking a day off will make the other six days more productive. In all honesty, I can't say for sure that has happened, but I can say my time alone with God on Wednesdays is one of the most important things I can do. If it's been a while since you have really had a day off, I would encourage you to give it a shot.
Wednesday, March 27, 2024
Miracle in the Pain
Katy has loved music all her life. She was born with a rare disease called congenital scoliosis. The disease resulted in severe back pain, and her doctor recommended surgery which involved inserting metal rods into her back. Regrettably, the surgery did not heal the pain; it seemed to intensify it. Just before turning 17, the pain was so bad that Katy considered killing herself. God intervened and revealed that He had something more for her. She was given the choice to keep the rods in her back or have them removed, and she elected to remove them. While all of the pain was not totally removed, the cloud of despair hanging over her was, and she gave the credit for that to God. God also revealed His purpose for her. Katy decided to use her love for music for the glory of God, and she began leading worship at her church. She also began writing songs with a mentor. One of those songs, "In Jesus Name" won the worship song of the year in 2022, and Katy Nichole was named best new Christian artist at the Dove Awards in 2023. Praise God for the gift that He has given her and for her obedience to use that gift for His glory. Click here for her performance of that song and click here to see an interview with her telling her story in her own words.
Thursday, March 21, 2024
Church Hunters
Thursday, March 14, 2024
Faith Proclaimed